You already know what to do. So why aren’t you doing it?


Hey Reader,

Can I be honest with you?

A few days ago, I was talking with my sister about our goals for the year and what we wanted to accomplish, and we started discussing how easy it is to feel stuck and discouraged if you believe you're never going to be able to do them.

And the truth is that for many years, that was me.

I would have all these New Year's resolutions (get fit and be more active, run a marathon, get in a long-term romantic relationship, fall in love, put myself out there and share my ideas online, improve my finances, start investing, start my own business, create a product, get better at public speaking, travel more, have a creative hobby...)

And every year, I never truly believed that I would do any of those things.

Not because I didn't know 'how'. I knew exactly what it was that I needed to do to get closer to those things. I just didn't believe I was yet the kind of person who could do those things. I didn't believe I was outgoing, or athletic, or fun, or money-savvy, or a creator and entrepreneur... And so, I didn't think I could do those things.

And this is not something rare or uncommon either.

Last week, a neighbor was telling me how she’s had the same idea written in her Notes app for three years.
Every January, she rereads it.
Every year, she tells herself, “This is the year.”
And then, every year… she waits again.

Most women I talk to don’t feel stuck because they don’t know what to do.

They feel stuck because…
They do know what to do.

They know:

  • They should apply for the job
  • Start the project
  • Post the content
  • Set the boundary
  • Take the first step

And yet… they don’t.

Not because they’re lazy. Not because they’re incapable. But because something in them whispers:

“What if I fail?”
“What if I look stupid?”
“What if I’m not ready yet?”
“What if I wait a little longer?”

So instead of moving forward, we stay in place, overthinking, planning, preparing… and quietly feeling more behind with every week that passes.

Here’s the belief shift I want to offer you today:

👉 Your problem isn’t a lack of clarity. It’s a lack of emotional safety to act.

You already know what you want. You already know the next step.

What you don’t yet have is:

  • A nervous system that trusts movement
  • A mind trained to choose action over fear
  • A structure that makes courage repeatable

That’s what keeps you stuck, not lack of information.

And that’s exactly why I'm creating the Bold Action Accelerator (Beta).

Not to teach you what to want. Not to give you another PDF to read.

But to work alongside you to help you to:

  • Stop negotiating with fear.
  • Stop waiting for confidence.
  • Stop putting your life on “pause.”
  • And start building momentum through small, real actions.

This program is for the woman who says:

“I know what I want… but I keep stopping myself.” “I feel like I should be further along by now.” “I don’t need more motivation, I need to actually MOVE.”

So here’s your small but powerful invitation today:

Bold women don’t start by being fearless.
They start by being brutally honest with themselves (and others).

👉 Reply to this email and tell me one sentence:
What do you already know you should be doing… but aren’t?

No fixing.
No explaining.
Just the truth.

That single sentence is a decision.
And decisions create momentum.

Your answer will help me shape this program for women exactly where you are right now.

And it might be the first brave action you take this week. 💛

P.S. You’re not behind, you’re just standing at the edge of your next version. And edges feel scary before they're powerful.


Progress happens gradually... Then, suddenly.

Yesterday, I was watching UFC, and it made me notice how often, during the first few minutes or even the first round, most fights start out slowly.

The fighters usually start by feeling each other out.

They start kind of dancing, one foot forward and then one back, another foot forward, another foot back.

This dance happens for a while, gradually; they try one jab here and there, one kick here and there, but they quickly go back to their previous stance.

Then, suddenly, the fights start speeding up, and quickly afterwards, they are hitting and knocking each other out hard.

That made me think that progress and growth often happen like this in our own lives.

Slowly, gradually, then suddenly, quickly.

Many times, when you're doing something new or different, on the outside, it may look like nothing is really happening, like you're going back and forth in the fight of life.

But underneath, you're learning the patterns, you're noticing your strengths and weaknesses, and you're building the practice and the muscle to get stronger and better.

A lot of the time, when you feel like nothing is happening and that your efforts are pointless, remember this:

You're just creating the gradual, slow foundation for future sudden, quick growth.

A simple reminder that if you change your perspective on the fight, you will start fighting the fight differently, too.


The fable of "The Man, The Boy, and The Donkey."

"A man and his son were bringing their donkey to the market.

As they were walking along the path, a man passed them and said, "You fools, what is a Donkey for but to ride upon?"

So the man put the boy on the donkey and continued. They passed a group of men, one of whom said, "See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides."

So the man ordered his boy to get off, and he got on himself. They passed two women, one of whom whispered to the other, "Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor son trudge along."

So the man took his boy up with him on the donkey. A crowd of onlookers yelled, "Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that donkey?"

So the man and boy got off and carried the donkey on their shoulders. As they crossed a bridge, it kicked loose, fell over the side, and drowned.

"That will teach you,"
said an old man who had quietly followed them from the beginning of the journey.

"Please all, and you will please none."

I like this story because it shows that in life, you will constantly encounter people who will find fault with anything you do.

They will make it a point to tell you what you're doing wrong, to judge you, or criticize you, to make fun of you, to 'advise' you on what to change, and to try to make you feel bad for who you are or how you do things.

This is a natural part of life.

So, remember this: You will never be able to please everyone. And that's why you should not try.

You're not responsible for how people see you or for the narratives that other people make about you, your process, and your journey.

You're the author of your own story.

And sometimes, to be able to write the best stories, we have to forget about the readers, to focus on the page.


A question for this week

If you already know:

  • What habits would help you feel better
  • What step would move your life forward
  • What you’ve been putting off and avoiding for too long
  • What you’d try if you weren’t scared

The real question isn’t “What should I do?”

It’s: “Who would I have to become to actually do it?”

Because action (or truly, inaction) isn’t a productivity problem. It’s an identity problem.

Some part of you is still trying to protect the version of you that:

  • Waits until she feels confident.
  • Overthinks instead of moves.
  • Tells herself “later”, instead of “now.”
  • Stays familiar instead of brave.

And that part of you isn’t lazy or broken. It’s trying to keep you safe.

But safety and growth don’t live in the same place.

Here’s the shift I want you to sit with today:

You don’t need more motivation. You don’t need a better plan. You don’t need to “fix” yourself first.

Instead, you need to practice this:

  • Taking action while feeling supported.
  • Noticing that fear doesn’t mean “stop.”
  • Using momentum as a replacement for self-doubt.
  • And teaching your nervous system that forward movement is safe.

That’s the real work. Not hype. Not willpower. Not pressure.

Practice.

That's what truly helps you become the person who actually does it.

  • Who doesn’t wait until she feels ready
  • Who builds confidence through reps
  • Who knows how to move through fear
  • Who stops abandoning herself mid-action

Not overnight. Not perfectly.

But consistently.

P.S.1: This is exactly why I’m building the Bold Action Accelerator (Beta). If you’ve been telling yourself, “I know what to do, I just don’t do it”, reply with ACTION + the action you're avoiding. That’s the first rep. If this message feels uncomfortably accurate… that’s probably not a coincidence.

P.S.2: Start doing it differently with the "First Step Formula". Watch here.

And Reader, in case you ever forget it, you are loved, you are worthy, and you are capable of creating a life you love. Always. It's time to go out there and DO. SOMETHING. ABOUT. IT.

Jenny 😉

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Jenny

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